28 — Fix Yourself First!

I’ve always been solution-oriented—meaning, if I saw a problem, I would try to fix it. Even when a fix wasn’t called for, or when my partner really only wanted me to listen, not try to fix things for her. Particularly during the G W Bush years, I read voraciously to understand what was wrong and how I could participate in fixing it. So much of that time, in particular, really irritated me. This irritation could occur at all levels—the Bush and crew antics were national and global, but there were local things that got to me, too; e.g.,  Continue reading

27 — Our Lives Are Ruled by the Rules of Our Lives!

Update 22 July 2014: Also see blog post #24—Shame, Guilt and Judgement and #19—What Influences You? for more on thoughts and beliefs, and their effects on our lives.

Our lives are ruled by the rules of our lives… What does that mean? What are the rules of our lives anyway? Are you thinking, “I don’t have any rules. I’m a free spirit and I make up my own rules!” or something like that? Perhaps you’re not as “free” as you think/believe you are. Note, first of all, that “think” and “believe” are activities of the mind—not qualities of the higher self. Secondly, rules are postulates Continue reading

26 — Periodic Updates to Post #25 — How to Manifest—Really!

If you haven’t read 25 — How to Manifest—Really!, please do so before reading these updates. Also, you may want to check back here regularly as I’ll continue to update this page as more comes to me about manifesting.

5 June 2014— Role of the Feminine: In #25 we talked about manifesting coming from the heart, not the mind. More about that from this morning’s meditation:

Each of us has a masculine aspect Continue reading

25 — How to Manifest—Really!

Don’t Believe What I Say!

There’s a lot I have to say here that isn’t universally accepted. I encourage you not to believe any of it just because I’ve said it and you’ve read it. In fact, don’t believe anything I have to say here. Rather, go deep inside yourself and determine for yourself whether or not any of it is true. What is true is what you know (in your heart—not in your mind) to be true.

So, this blog entry is about manifesting what you passionately want in your life. What you will find here is not what I wrote as much as what came to me—actually, as do all these blog entries. The words flow and I write them down! Then where do the words come from?  Continue reading

24 — Shame, Guilt and Judgement

What are shame, guilt and judgement and how do they affect us? Let’s start by defining each:

Judgement: Judgement is perhaps the easiest of the three to define or at least to understand. When we judge—a situation, another person, or even ourselves—we are evaluating that object (and we do make them or it an object) according to some belief about the way they or it should be, or behave, or act. Judging is an act of Continue reading

23 — What are Self-Esteem and Self-Worth, Really?

Is there a difference between self-esteem and self-worth? Not really. Much has been written about self-esteem—especially in children—most of which doesn’t seem to distinguish between the two (see Wikipedia here and here), so we’ll use the two interchangeably. Much has also been written on the influences on self-esteem and what to do about low self-esteem (see this extensive list of articles from Psychology Today). There are also many articles recommending alternatives to focusing on self-esteem; e.g., compassion, status, self-respect, and self-recognition and acknowledgement.

If you’ve followed my other posts, you might guess that I feel they’ve all got it wrong! Continue reading

21 — Mutual Exchange of Value

Much of our lives is spent in exchanges. Whenever we make a purchase, that’s an exchange of value; when we make a donation to a favored charity, that’s an exchange; so is the $2 or $10 or $20 you gave to the homeless individual standing on the corner asking for help; and in very many ways, so is the conversation you’ve just had with your child, or your doctor, or the person standing next to you in the grocery store checkout line. It’s pretty obvious to see that, when you purchase something and pay for it, you’ve made an exchange of value. Perhaps it’s more difficult to see that a short conversation in the grocery store line with a complete stranger you may never see again is also an exchange of value, as is the case when you give money to a homeless person. Continue reading

20 — Passion vs. Lust

What is passion? What is lust? Is there a difference? We’ve talked several times before about passion (1 — Empowering Yourself—Finding Your Passion!2 — What is Your Passion and How Can You Live It?3 — Creating a Living from Your Passion, and 13 — “Truly” Awakening Your Passion — you might want to take a look at those blog posts to refresh what we’ve had to say before, as well as look at 6 — Who Are You? Who Am I?), but we haven’t talked about lust, or about lust in relationship to passion. So, what’s the difference, if there is one? Continue reading